By Babu Tendu Will God forgive me for loving a married man? Love, for many in this generation, is just a word. Often you sit down and wonder where movies get their content on Love and marriage. Marriage has been made to become a shadow of what we were always meant to believe it should be.
For many men, it has been reduced to a rite of passage as many were meant to believe that you are born, you get initiated, get married, and then die. Handing your coat over to your loved one during a cold night or opening a car door is something that they would not consider.
Many females feel like they are just fine and their lives are more often than not going according to plan. The need for commitment is constantly fading away and short-term relationships are slowly becoming the new order. People want to be treated like they are in a relationship but do not want to be in one at the same time.
That is why people have several partners all at once. The truth, however, from the hundreds of people I have spoken to and the hundreds of Reddit posts I have come across, is that people need love and affection from one partner. And also, as it is written, God is forgiving.
So Will God forgive me for loving a married man?
Before we answer this question, we need to note that God is not a human being. Once you understand his nature completely, you will conclude that he is beyond what we can fathom as human beings. God forgives.
Remember David in the Bible, or Moses, while one was busy going after Uriah to take over his wife, the other had one of the worst tempers to be recorded in the holy scriptures but in the end, they were both used by God in a good way.
Somewhere in the scriptures it is written, and I will quote bluntly, “If my people shall turn away from their evil ways and call up to me, then I shall listen” The verse insinuates that forgiveness is up for grabs but with the condition that you are willing to turn away from your evil ways and turn to Christ.
Understanding God’s Love and Grace
According to the Holy scriptures, it is clearly indicated in Psalms 103 that God has compassion for those who fear him, this is directly compared in the same chapter to the feeling that a father has towards his children.
Elsewhere in the Bible in Proverbs 3, we are advised to heed the Lord’s discipline because he only disciplines those who he loves. God has many ways of dealing with us once we have gone against his will. But the Bible is a clear testament that he only punishes us if he truly cares about us and this is most probably 100 percent of the time.
What the Bible Says about Adultery and Forgiveness
The Bible does not compromise on adultery at any point as it clearly states as one of the ten commandments in the book of Exodus chapter 20 that “You shall not commit adultery.” The Bible further indicates that a man commits every other sin outside of his/her own body but the sin of sexual immorality is against their own body. The sin of sexual immorality is hugely condemned in the Holy Scriptures.
Recognizing the Harm of Loving a Married Man
In Hebrews 13:4 the Holy scriptures maintain that marriage should be held in honor and that it is an offense for the marriage bed to be defiled. It further states that God will, in the end, judge the adulterous and sexually immoral harshly.
To further explain this, In the beginning, God removed a rib from Adam and put it into Eve, an indication that there is someone out there for everyone. “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, they say” I guess the same applies to “She who finds a husband”.
The Bible takes sides and insists that a “husband” is already someone’s property. This could also mean that technically, by loving a married man you have in one way or another coveted your neighbour’s property hence breaking yet another one of the commandments.
Seeking Forgiveness from God
If you go as far as getting involved romantically with a married man then there is one thing left to do to mend your relationship with the creator. Asking for forgiveness. The easy way to do this is to get on your knees and pray.
Aside from the fact that God answers prayers, he also knows those who seek forgiveness with a sincere heart and are ready to change their ways and follow the right path to Christ.
Our Lord is forgiving and is filled with compassion. Believe it or not, you shall be forgiven. However, in some denominations like the Seventh Day Adventist Church, you might need to get re-baptized to be accepted back into the church. In the holy scriptures, however, there is only one way to get the creator’s attention and that is through prayers.
Seeking Counsel from a Godly Friend or Pastor
Seeking counsel from a friend in this modern world could be risky. This is because society is rotten, many people including those smiling to your face are eagerly waiting for your downfall and an easy opportunity to stab you in the back.
An experienced pastor could, however, be a good option because they have probably heard it all. It could be from others among his congregants with similar issues or even from prayer requests sent to him anonymously. Not to mention the oath of secrecy that pastors take that binds everything that is said in confession between the two of you. There could be rogue pastors but, it is hard to find them.
In today’s society, people just prefer to be conmen full-time instead of disguising themselves as pastors and playing the long game. It is a microwave generation.
Conclusion
The Bible indicates that we should love our neighbors as we love ourselves. So, where do we draw the line when it comes to loving a married man? Love can land you in trouble if you overstep the boundaries that are indicated within the scriptures. The boundaries come after one becomes intimate with the married man.
When lust comes in or even, when you start sending signals of your feelings to a married man. The best thing to do the moment you start catching feelings for a married man is to seek counsel from God.
Get on your knees and pray and I can assure you that you will witness miracles happen in your life. You never know, God might just send someone your way to help you get out of the temptation of being with a married man.